Advocacy

I encourage you to always be an advocate for your loved one(s).

You cannot overdo encouragement : )!

Ask About the Good Stuff

In the past, when I asked my sister to recall the low points she would stop and think, sometimes remembering them. In loving, I asked because I didn't want her to keep going through the same cycle. I felt by asking she would not repeat it.

What may seem mundane to you may be joyful to your loved
one(s). Don't forget to ask them about their good stuff.

It is not in my ability to change the outcome.

Wellness

Whatever occurs will occur. It may happen in the time frame you've prescribed, or it may not.

I trust myself to guide myself.

Cycles

Mental illness goes in waves. There are calm days and stormy days. The storms come less frequently. I look forward to times of peace.

I now know that life will never be calm all the time. It is not the nature of life's cycle.

Peace is inside of me. There is a part of my soul no one can reach.

Courage

Have the courage to ask.

My sister always has the courage to ask. In the past, I was not always ready to be with her and she was emotionally courageous enough to put herself out there for a no.

Sometimes the feelings that pull me apart help put me back together. I am healing.

Letting Go of Control

Life is scripted; live with integrity.

Purpose

Wisdom: It is not important to tout your purpose or talk about it, just let it be your essence. Emit kindness, support and literally walk into your situation with open arms.

When interacting with my sister it was helpful just to enter a moment with a warm welcome and a hug for her.

Belief

Teach me how to live life. How will I get through each day? Expensive therapies, medicines, analysis. Teach me how to do it. I am on my own once I leave. How do I live? How do I do my life?

I felt these thoughts for my sister when she was leaving the institution. Everything was so controlled and structured for so long. How would she live?

Belief. Whatever your choice, go, do and follow what you believe in. G-d bless you.